Tips to Help Your Child Feel More at Ease
The back-to-school season can bring up a lot of emotions for kids—and for parents too! While some kids are excited to see their friends and meet new teachers, others might feel a wave of anxiety about the unknowns: new routines, classrooms, expectations, and changes in daily life. If your child tends to worry or gets overwhelmed during transitions, you’re not alone—and there are ways to help.
Here are a few therapist-approved tips to ease back-to-school anxiety:
1. Acknowledge Their Feelings
Let your child know it’s okay to feel nervous. You might say something like, “It makes sense that you’re feeling a little worried. A lot of kids feel that way before school starts.” Validating their emotions helps them feel seen—and opens the door for them to talk more.
2. Ease Into the School Schedule Early
One of the biggest stressors this time of year is the sudden change in routine. Summer days are often slower and less structured. Try gradually adjusting bedtime and wake-up times a week or two before school starts. This gives your child’s body (and mind!) a chance to adapt before the first day.
3. Talk Through What to Expect
Anxiety often feeds on the unknown. Walk your child through what a typical school day might look like. If possible, visit the school, meet the teacher, or look at photos of their classroom. Even simple things like practicing how to pack a lunch or organize their backpack can help make the day feel more manageable.
4. Use Routines for Reassurance
Morning and evening routines provide structure and predictability, which can be comforting when everything else feels new. Let your child help plan these routines so they feel more in control.
5. Help Them Name “Anticipation Anxiety”
Sometimes kids feel uneasy without knowing why. Explain that feeling nervous before something happens—even if it turns out okay—is called anticipation anxiety. Naming it gives kids language for what they’re feeling and reminds them that it’s temporary.
6. Focus on the Wins
At the end of the day, ask your child what went well—even if it was something small like “I liked my snack” or “I found the library.” This shifts their focus from fear to pride and helps build confidence for the next day.
Every child is different, and back-to-school jitters may take time to settle. Your calm presence, encouragement, and patience make a big difference. And remember—if your child’s anxiety feels intense or ongoing, it’s always okay to reach out to a mental health professional for support.
Here’s to a smooth and supported start to the school year!